As we continue our journey into getting back to some version of normal life again, it’s time to talk about the thoughts we all have bouncing around in our head – specifically, the unhealthy thoughts.
We discussed ways to set goals and achieve them now that stay-at-home orders are lifting, but it’s impossible to write new goals if you’re stuck in a bad place in your head.
Where Does Fear Come From?
Fear is coded in us. We are social animals, which means we constantly seek validation from others, and we’re biologically programmed to look for danger. That makes us focus on the negative to try to survive.
These two things are the source of most of your unhealthy thoughts. Sometimes our insecurities get so bad we create lies that we end up believing. One of the biggest lies we tell ourselves is, “I’m not good enough.”
Luckily, you are NOT your thoughts!
How to Get Rid of Those Unhealthy Thoughts
Stop think of your negative thoughts as facts, and start thinking of them as opinions. Those thoughts aren’t facts. They are your opinions based on other people’s opinions of you.
Let’s try it.
Internal thought: I didn’t land that gig because I’m a failure.
That’s not a fact. The fact is that you didn’t get the gig, but you being a failure is just an opinion. You attached your opinion to a fact.
Stripping out the opinion leaves you with just the fact, which is something you can work with – something you can grow from.
We know, we know…we’ve talked about the benefits of meditation before [insert magnum link] and you’re still not into it. We get it.
You don’t need to sit cross-legged with your fingers touching, saying ohm to meditate. It’s just a way to get a little deeper in your head and into your thoughts. We are really good at just burying most of our thoughts, but it’s healthy to address them.
3. Thought Correction
When a negative thought enters your mind, it’s up to you to correct it. As life starts back up, it’s important to let go of unhealthy thinking. They are not serving you well.
Try this: Instead of saying I am not *insert unhealthy thought,* try saying, I am *insert positive thought*.
See? It’s easy.
It’s just important for you to start recognizing your negative thoughts so you’re able to change them.
4. Be Grateful
This is another one that most people miss. But being grateful will help shift your thinking. It’s actually really easy. Just sit and think about all the things you’re grateful for right now.
Now, as you go through your day, try finding other things you’re grateful for and make a mental note of it.
Actively looking for good things will start to shut out the negative thinking we’re all used to doing.
5. Realize That You Are Enough
Nobody is perfect, so there’s no reason you need to be perfect. You are good enough the way you are, and there’s nothing wrong with that.
Keeping that in mind, you have allow yourself room to learn and grow. Comparing yourself to others will just tear you down, so no more of that.
People won’t always see that you’re good enough, but it doesn’t matter. What matters is that you KNOW you’re good enough.
6. Find the Triggers
There are a lot of external influences that can trigger negative thoughts. To keep them from happening, you need to be able to identify them. When you get a negative thought, think about what just happened to make that thought pop in your head, and make a note of it.
Keeping track of triggers will help you avoid them in the future.
It’s a good idea to start recognizing things that bring you joy, too. Those positive triggers are what you should be looking for more of.
7. Take Care of Yourself
To keep your thoughts in check, you need to do your best to also work on self care. Having a good exercise routine [insert Magnum Link] is the best thing you can do for yourself. There are a lot of positive things that happen in your body and your brain when you workout, so make that a priority.
Focus on eating healthier. Cut back on sugar, alcohol, and caffeine. All of those things lead to negative thoughts.
Schedule breaks into your day where you allow yourself to just relax and do whatever you want to do. Because you scheduled the time, you won’t feel guilty about it.
If you only take one thing away from this post, it should be to stop beating yourself up if something doesn’t go perfectly.
Negative thoughts are normal, but life is so much better if you can use these tips to get those thoughts out of your head.
Take a deep breath. You’re not perfect, but you’re pretty damn great!